A CNN IBN buff, I’m waiting for 10 pm tonight to watch a CNN IBN showcase on India’s three generations and their take on marriage. It’s an initiative in countdown to India’s 61st Independence Day. Their preliminary poll claims that 82% of the Indian youth consider marriage an integral (read necessary) part of life. The study will explore social acceptance of divorce, live-in relationships and nuclear families.
Mostly, until adolescent and puberty years, most people (children) tend to shun marriage and vow bachelorhood forever. As we come of age however, mindsets tend to change, mature if I may say, and magically enough, people seem to accept marriage as the next step in “settling down” in life. The next step to finishing schooling, starting a job and ensuring a steady stream of income.
Well, I hope I’m not the only one who hasn’t been transformed by the magic yet. I’ve thought about it time and again, examined the concept, contested the logic, pulled my hair out. Always the same answer. No offense, but marriage to me is probably the most irrational concept in our human society. People claim that finding the ‘right’ person lends rationality. Well, let’s say, the ‘right’ person does come along, and you do complete the mammoth task of identification, I ask, what is the pressing need to tie a knot to mark your territory? Isn’t trust, confidence, togetherness, “love” enough? Why do we need a legal and societal stamp? Will it be any less a relationsip minus the trumpet and the singing and the food?
Support me here, CNN IBN. Tell me, live-ins are the marriages of today.